Friday, September 16, 2011

Maybe it's just me

I had this crazy idea this morning while reading this story and waiting for news to happen. The idea is so simple, so genius, that it's a wonder no one else thought of it first.

Actually, dozens or perhaps hundreds probably have thought of it and it isn't feasible, but I'm going to throw it out there anyway.

Why, exactly, are public schools teaching kids when to have sex? How is that part of sex education?

I remember STD talks in high school and those awkward movies in elementary school, but I don't honestly remember a conversation about condoms or purity vows or anything like that in public school. And it's not because my school didn't need it. Roswell was full of pregnant teenagers, uninvolved parents and plenty of cultural gray area about what was appropriate. But I don't remember sex ed policies.

I did, however, go to college in Lubbock, Texas, and then move to Utah, and I know those sex-ed policies quite well.

But why should sex education include some health teacher telling teenagers the appropriate time to have sex? In my mind, a good sex ed curriculum would look like this:

Week 1: Learning how to talk about genitalia without using the terms wee-wee or hooha and also not giggling.
Week 2: Hormones. What's normal to feel. What you should expect in sex, especially the first few times.
Week 3: Biological consequences of sex (i.e. pregnancy)
Week 4: A discussion about the lifelong effects of pregnancy
Week 5: This is what abortion is. This is what birth control does. This is what a condom is and how effective it can be. Students who successful mastered the week 1 curriculum can put the condom on the banana if they want. There is some research somewhere that proves that putting a condom on a banana does not make a teenager more likely to have sex. (Week 2 has done that already.)
Week 6: STDs. With pictures. Get into detail. Gross kids out. Talk about whether condoms protect against those. Talk about how birth control doesn't. Talk about how no matter how careful you are, only abstinence will fully protect you from getting an STD. Talk about AIDS, but don't blow it out of proportion.
Week 7: The emotional consequences of sex. Relationships change when sex is introduced. A certain level of maturity is ideal.
Week 8: Respect.
Week 9: Rape and sexual assault. A girl who's a "slut" can get raped. She's never asking for it. No never means yes. Report it.
Week 10: Keeping yourself healthy.
Weeks 11+: Open conversation.

There is no reason a teacher should be telling kids when to have sex. It's not appropriate. That's a moral question, and that's something a parent or trusted adult should be discussing with that teenager.

There's also no reason why "don't have sex until you're married" should be passing as sex ed.

1 comment:

  1. This strategy is way to rational and reasonable. It will never work!