The most distressing part was how cruel kids are. What struck me was that they are learning it from somewhere. Our society has become almost cannibalistic; we turn on people who are weak, who are different or just because we know we can get away with that. As a result, those who most need affirming relationships are thrown to the wolves.
So today, I'm setting a goal to not be that girl:
- Who is threatened by another woman simply because she seems more successful than me.
- Who feels better when I push others down.
- Who whispers and gossips instead of speaking out loud.
- Who doesn't say anything when another person is being hurt.
- Who doesn't want to make waves.
- Who never teaches my children the true meaning of Christlike love — as in, love everyone unconditionally, no matter if they dress weird, talk "funny," don't act quite right or are boys who like boys.
- Who expects the church, the school, the Girl Scouts to teach my children that bullying and hate are not OK because I can't or won't do it myself.
- Who doesn't butt in when I know someone is being abused.
- Who makes excuses for poor behavior or who fails to recognize the damage such behavior is inflicting.
- Who blames the victim. (Side note: I had a leader in Young Women who asked how her son could be expected to treat his date like a lady when she answered the door in a strapless dress. I was 13 when I had that conversation. I hope, sister, that you taught your son to treat every woman like a lady no matter what she was wearing. A gentleman isn't polite only to his peers.)
- Who diminishes myself so I don't stand out from the crowd. So no one notices me. So I will never become a target.